If you are having problems in your marriage, Christian counseling may be able to help you get back on track again. Below are some tips on how this can work well for both you and your spouse.

Talk With Your Minister

If you go to church, talk with a minister, as many of them offer Christian counseling to help marriages. The Christian counselor will provide you with spiritual support, pray with you and your spouse, and give you Biblical advice by showing you certain Bible verses that deal with the problems in your marriage.

A counselor can be very beneficial, as they look at your problems through a fresh set of eyes. They will not side with you or your spouse, and they will look at the problem as a whole. They may ask to speak with you alone for one session to get your side of the story, and then ask your spouse to come in alone for the same reason. This shows the counselor if you are both on the same page. You very well may not be. Your spouse may be doing things that make you mad and they do not even realize it.

The counselor will try to get to the root of the problem in your relationship. For example, you may think your arguments are about bills or your children, but if you dig deeper, you may realize you are holding a grudge against your spouse for something they did in the past.

Do Things at Home

Your counselor may ask you to do things at home to help your marriage. For example, they may ask you to write a line down the middle of a piece of paper. On one side of the line list what you love about your spouse, and on the other side of the line list what you do not. Sit down with your spouse and look over each other's paper. Start talking about your paper first, and explain to your spouse first the positive things, and then talk about the negative. Your spouse should then do the same. This allows both of you to come together and have a civil conversation, as talking with each other is important.

Set up a time each day to sit down and talk with each other. For example, it could be during dinner each night or before you go to bed.

Give counseling time to work, as you will not fix your Christian marriage over night. Both of you must be willing participants before this will work for you.

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